IAN Holloway wants Millwall to keep a lid on their emotions if decisions go against them against Blackburn Rovers tonight.
Lions players felt aggrieved by the performance of referee Bobby Madley in their 3-1 defeat to Watford on Saturday.
But Holloways believes that frustration got the better of his side and affected their decision-making during the game.
So he wants Millwall to keep their cool when Rovers come to town.
"We don't need a referee to help us, we help ourselves," Holloway said. "We did really well against Watford apart from handling the emotion of the game.
"Yes, you want your players to care but they need to defend and do their jobs after that."
The free kick which led to Watford's second goal was a particularly sore point of contention for the Lions.
"We felt we should've had a free kick on Alan Dunne," added Holloway. "The foul on him by Deeney was blatant and obvious.
"How the referee can twist that to a foul against us and a booking, which could have been worse in the end, is beyond me.
"We felt the decision should have gone the other way and watching it again, I'm convinced that Deeney has fouled Dunney at least three times during the game.
"But we have got to get on with it. These are excuses. We've got to learn to deal with these situations – we're never going to get those decisions, it's always been the same.
"The team has to keep going and make sure it's set up right. It's criminal really.
"We have had a chat about it and hopefully we will be able to adapt a new atmosphere and attitude towards whatever happens in a game.
"It's no good blaming the referee because the rest of the world is doing that as well. We've got to be robots and stay on task.
"On Saturday it looked like we were waiting for the referee to do something for us because we were all moaning at him. That's not the right attitude.
"That also starts with me on the bench. My job is to ask the fourth official whether the referee is being fair – the lads should leave that to me.
"I've got to lead by example and not say a word to the ref."